Kate Jagdon Breaks the Bias Against ‘Femme’ Lesbians

Kate Jagdon Breaks the Bias Against ‘Femme’ Lesbians

Influencer and DJ Kate Jagdon talks to g.spot about not fitting in the standard mold of what people consider lesbian.

Sexuality is a spectrum. Identities and orientations are complex and can go so many ways, going beyond the basic terms that we associate them with. With visibility of the community growing, there are also sectors of LGBTQ+ people who are clamoring for representation.

At first glance, Kate Jagdon looks like any other female, with that trademark feminity that often makes her associated with being straight. But this young influencer and established DJ is a loud and proud member of the LGBTQ+ community, who is facing her own share of misconceptions for being labeled as an “invisible lesbian” and not fitting in the standard mold of her butch-looking contemporaries.

Kate talks to g.spot about her experiences of being a femme, “invisible” lesbian.

g.spot: What was your experience like as a femme lesbian?

KATE: My experience is a lot of people don’t believe me that I am a lesbian because I am too feminine and they think I’m lying about it.

g.spot: How did you come out to your friends or to your family? 

KATE: I didn’t have to come out to my family or friends because I think they already knew when I introduced my girlfriend to them, so they just accepted me for who I am. 

g.spot: When did you realize you’re a lesbian? 

KATE: I guess at the time I fell in love with someone and I guess that was it. Now I realize I really love women, so I just took a leap of faith and everybody loves who I am. 

g.spot: What are the misconceptions you get for being a femme lesbian? 

One of the misconceptions I get from being a femme lesbian is that it’s just a phase and especially that I am too feminine with how I act and how I dress. But all i can say is love is love, and no matter what gender it is it’s love.

g.spot: Do you think society sees you as an invisible lesbian and have you ever gotten remarks about it?

KATE: I do think that society sees me as an invisible lesbian, especially in how I act and dress. I get remarks on how I should look like, but what really matters is how I’ve accept myself and how I am part of the LGBTQ community, and I’m so proud of it.