Becoming a mother is exhilarating; finally, a new life has entered yours after months of anticipation and everything feels perfect. It is definitely a feeling that only mothers can comprehend and appreciate. 

However, motherhood is also soul-sucking, and exhausting. It makes you second-guess your value and worth as a mother, and whether or not you are giving enough attention to your little one while trying to maintain your career postpartum.

Whether you have a career or are a stay-at-home mother, in the eyes of your child, you will always be the greatest and most empowering mother ever. 

Get to know the life of a busy all-around mother as Stephanie Villarica gets intimate with g.spot. 

g.spot: What is your experience like as a working mom?

STEPHANIE: I feel like my head is always all over the place. There are always so many things to do. I try to balance it as much as I can. I have a schedule that I follow every day, but yeah, it’s really more of making the most out of your time to finish all the little things on your to-do list.

g.spot: What do you think is the biggest challenge faced by moms at the workplace?

STEPHANIE: Personally, it’s really more having to balance time—your time. I personally don’t see a lot of discrimination anymore in the workplace because you do see a lot of women leaders already even leading multinational corporations and such.

In my business, it’s more about balancing my time that I’m still able to do my work and at the same time care for my two little boys because we don’t have helpers at home. I need to make sure I have time to do everything I need to do.

g.spot: What’s your typical day like?

STEPHANIE: I’m very dependent on my calendar for my schedule. My husband and I actually share a Google Calendar cause we don’t have helpers at home, like I said. But my typical mornings are with the kids because they have school, especially with distance learning, they’re very dependent on us in helping them do school work. Afternoons are pretty much work. I’m done by my day at 5:00 p.m. every day, and that’s when I start preparing dinner.

g.spot: How do you deal with the guilt that comes from making work-related sacrifices?

STEPHANIE: I think it’s very common for a lot of moms, especially the ones who work during the day or have to leave the house for a certain number of hours in a day or even for some who have to leave, to be away from their families.

I think what I can say is that it’s okay to feel the guilt, but don’t let it affect on how you are as a parent because in the eyes of your child you will still be the best mom ever.

g.spot: What advice would you give to mothers who are pursuing a career?

STEPHANIE: Oh, go do it, girl! There are moms who find joy in being full-time moms at home, there are women who find joy in being career-driven, and I admire those different types of women. For me, I found joy in being able to do both—being a full-time mom to my two boys AND being a full-time career woman. It makes me feel very alive to do what I do, so the advice that I can give to all of you career-oriented moms out there is to just keep doing what you’re doing, do what makes you happy because at the end of the day a happy mom is a happy home.

g.spot: What is your message of encouragement to women and women allies?

STEPHANIE: We run the world, girls! My message to all women out there is it’s very important to know who you are and what makes you happy no matter what it is. I think one of the nice things about the world we live in today is that more people are open-minded to all sorts of things, so don’t be afraid to show who you really are and to do what you really love because life is short enjoy life, and just love what you do.