Oftentimes a woman’s vagina is uncharted territory, so it’s understandable when a lot of men (and sometimes women) don’t know how to navigate down south. Unfortunately, some do still get lost in that Bermuda triangle and are clueless about how to bring a girl to climax. 

There’s no exact guidebook when it comes to doing oral since every woman is different. But that doesn’t mean you should just go at it without knowing these facts first. So before you go on your wet and wild adventure, here are a couple of things you need to know. 

Be generous on compliments

A lot of women are self-conscious about their vulva. Some of them haven’t even ventured down there or have only seen themselves once. Letting someone else get up close and personal there can be uncomfortable for them.

So when you’re there, shower them with compliments. Tell them how beautiful they are or how good they taste. Be in the moment and appreciate that you are there. Let them see that you’re enjoying how it feels to be in between their legs. 

Tonguefucking isn’t for everyone 

Buddy, your tongue isn’t a mini penis okay? So if you continue to tonguefuck your woman monotonously in and out for the next three minutes and expect her to orgasm, I’m sorry but that’s not likely to happen. 

Using your tongue on different parts of the vulva instead of sticking it stiffly in the hole is more likely to get her to come. 

If she looks bored, she probably is 

If she’s just lying back and you don’t hear any response from her, she is not enjoying it. Enough said.

Pay attention to her movements

If she’s grabbing onto the sheets and moaning, you’re doing a great job. If she’s asking for more and lifting herself towards you, then keep doing what you’re doing. If you see that she’s slightly pulling away or squirming, don’t keep hitting the same spot. If she’s fidgeting around, then you need to be attentive to her movements and reactions. 

Don’t believe what they do in porn 

If you’re planning to learn from the “pros”, don’t believe everything you watch. Jackhammering the clit with your tongue or inserting your fingers into the vagina fast might not be the best method to go for. 

Remember that all women are different and porn is exaggerated. Also, if you’re planning to use porn as a reference, then you’re better off watching girl-on-girl action. If there’s anyone who knows their way down there, it’s most likely a person who has her own vagina.

Switch up positions 

You don’t have to stick to the standard position of having her lie on her back while your head’s in between her legs. You can have her on top while you lie on your back.  Another position would be to have her on all fours on the bed, while you’re eating her out from behind. 

Don’t be afraid to change positions. Experimentation can make it fun and exciting. It can also let you discover new things that both of you enjoy. 

Don’t pound on the clit

It’s a very sensitive part. It’s not a doorbell you can keep pressing. You have to be gentle when you handle it. Some girls don’t like being overly stimulated and if you push on it too hard, it can hurt. 

Vary your tongue movements until you discover what she likes best. You can flatten your tongue against her clit or trace tiny circles there. 

Use a vibrator or your fingers

Your jaw and mouth are expected to get tired after a while. Alternating between your fingers and mouth is a good idea. It’s also good to have a vibrator so you can change up the pressure when you want to give your mouth and fingers a rest. 

You’re in there for the long haul, buddy

You’re not just going to be licking there for a few minutes and boom, she orgasms. Nope. It’s going to take a while. It might take a woman 20 minutes to get off from oral, but she will appreciate the time and effort you spend focusing on her needs.

Communication is key 

If all else fails, just ask what she wants. You can ask her to direct you while you’re down there so you’d know what to do. Ask what pressure she wants, which parts she wants you to lick, and just let her know that she can keep urging you on and encouraging you what to do. 

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