For a lot of women, getting the big O often can be quite the challenge especially with sexual intercourse. In fact, about 75 percent of all women never reach orgasm from intercourse alone — that is without the extra help of sex toys, hands, or the tongue. And 10 to 15 percent never climax under any circumstances. But don’t fret! Finding out what gives you an orgasm can be a completely great adventure in itself. 

So for those of you who are worried that you aren’t orgasming whether you’re having sexual intercourse with a partner or when you’re having me time, this is the perfect guide to which sex toys you need to make your coochie talk. 

Let’s Get Vibe-ing!

Let’s start with vibrators. Some people like to call them personal massagers to make it more discreet. Basically, these are objects with motor or mechanical parts that make a continuous buzzing to stimulate your lady parts. It’s perfect for trying to achieve clitoral orgasms. They come in different shapes and sizes like eggs, bullets, and phallic shapes too!

There are also those designed for penetration that hit the g.spot so well, you’ll be seeing stars halfway through your session. You can even experiment with the backdoor if you’re adventurous enough. 

Go Get That D!

Next are dildos. Most dildos are phallic-shaped. Some of them can be designed to realistically look like a penis while others can be more abstract. They come in different sizes too, so don’t be surprised when you see one that spans your whole forearm (and yes, ladies… width, length, and girth). Plus, they’re made out of different materials like silicone, rubber, plastic, metal, or break-resistant glass (I mean, you can make a dildo out of anything if you’re brave enough *wink*).

We recommend one that’s made of either medical-grade steel or break-resistant glass. Rubbers, silicone, and plastic are made of porous materials which can cause infections when not properly cleaned. 

Need for Beads

Third on our list is anal beads. As the name suggests, these are beads that you stick up your anus, which gives quite the sensation when they go in and out. No darling, you don’t stick the beads in one by one like a suppository. These beads are usually connected by a string or can be made of silicone so you can pull them out when they’re inside you.

Make sure you lube it up because your anus needs that extra juice to let it slip and slide down there!

(C)lit It Up!

Next, we have clit suckers — and sorry ladies I don’t mean your boyfriends or girlfriends. These are clitoral suction stimulators that you put directly onto your clit. They give the sensation of having your clitoris sucked on which fills it with blood, making it engorged and more sensitive to the touch. Oh and don’t worry! It’s not like those high-powered vacuums that will make your coochie go ouch.

If you can get the best quality clitoral suction toys, then you can throw the whole man away, hunny! Jokes aside, clit suckers have the added benefit of not desensitizing your clit like some vibrators do when used for longer periods of time. 

Analytical Skills

Lastly, we have anal plugs. It’s another trip through the backdoor! If you’re into anal play with your significant other and want to find out if you can orgasm that way, anal plugs are the “keys” to paradise. When women say that anal play with their significant other hurts, it’s usually because they go into it without preparation. You have to start with a smaller plug and work your way up to bigger sizes until your partner can stick it inside you almost painlessly. A lot of women keep their plugs in for longer periods of time to “train” themselves. But don’t force it if it’s causing you too much pain.

Anal plugs usually have a flared bottom to keep the whole plug from going inside you. So make sure they have that flared bottom, otherwise, it’s going to be one helluva trip to the emergency room. As usual, make sure to use lots of lubrication prior to anal play! We recommend stainless steel plugs for easier clean up.